Sunday, May 17, 2009

Kayla Speaks at Stake Priesthood Meeting

Kayla was asked to speak tonight at the Stake General Priesthood Meeting.  She amazes me, it was so awesome - she has allowed me to share it.  

Qualities in a Future Companion

Talk given by Kayla Gomer - May 17, 2009 Stake Priesthood Meeting

A couple of weeks ago when I was asked if I would speak at this meeting, I felt extremely overwhelmed.  I couldn’t imagine what I would say to all of these men who have the blessing of Priesthood power.  I am extremely grateful for all of you and your worthiness to hold this sacred power.  You are definitely examples to me.

Tonight, I am going to speak to you about the qualities that I am looking for in my future husband. 

As I speak to you, I hope that I will be able to motivate you all to become the men and husbands I know you can be, whether you are already married or just at the very beginning of your preparation for marriage.

Now, I am going to forewarn you all that I am definitely not perfect and neither is any other woman on this earth, so I want to let you know that we do not expect you to be perfect.  Elder Oaks once said, “A good marriage does not require a perfect man or perfect woman.  It only requires a man and a woman committed to strive together toward perfection.”

An eternal marriage is the beginning on the journey toward perfection and to an eternal family.   In The Family: A Proclamation to the World, there are qualities that are explained that I want my eternal companion to have.  The Proclamation reads, “All human beings-male and female- are created in the image of God.  Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, each has a divine nature and destiny.”  Respect for one another is an essential piece of a marriage.  Respecting others leads to understanding that we are all sons and daughters of God.  We all have a divine purpose and we all have different characteristics that make up the person that we are.  Because no two people are the same, respect the differences.  Don’t treat anyone, especially your wife, like they are inferior.  Your wife is your best friend; she should walk right by your side, not behind you.

The Proclamation tells us, “In the Premortal realm, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshiped God as their Eternal Father…” I want my husband to have a strong testimony of the truthfulness of the gospel.  I want my future companion to inspire me to become the best person I can be.  Love the Lord and do His will.  Each of you young men should be planning on going on a mission and unselfishly giving up two years of your life to preach the gospel wherever you are sent.  If you are a good missionary, you will return home with the desire to continue to serve the Lord, to keep His commandments, and do His will.  Such behavior will add immeasurably to the happiness of your marriage.

The Proclamation then says, “Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.”  A temple marriage should be our number one goal.  We have been taught that since primary:

“I love to see the temple, I’ll go inside someday,

                    I’ll covenant with my father, I’ll promise to obey.

                    For the temple is a holy place where we are sealed together,

                    As a child of God, I’ve learned this truth,

                   A family is forever.”

There is no greater gift than that of a marriage in Heavenly Father’s holy house.  I will not settle for anything else, and neither should any of you.  You need to prepare to be worthy to be sealed in the temple for all eternity.  You need to be willing to sacrifice everything so that you can take the woman you love to the temple for all eternity. 

Determination to have a temple marriage is illustrated in the story of Kovana Pauga and Evelini Wesley, who lived in Samoa before a temple was built there.  To enjoy the blessings of a temple marriage, these faithful members decided to be married in the Laie Hawaii Temple.  To cover the cost of airfare to Hawaii, they asked the superintendent of the school where they worked, to withhold 80% of their income and set it aside.  They paid their tithing with half of their remaining income and lived on the other half.  To save money, the couple grew food in a garden.  After nearly a year, they saved enough money to make the trip to Hawaii, and there they were sealed for time and eternity in the house of the Lord.  This couple reached their goal because a temple sealing was a priority. 

Ask yourself, is being married in the temple a priority for me?  Do my actions reflect my desire to be sealed in the temple?  Decide today that you will settle for nothing less.

The Proclamation then states: “The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife.  We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force… the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.”  Every young woman’s dream is to become a mother someday.  I want my future husband to look forward to having children and will set a good example for them. 

President Hinckley once said as he was addressing men in conference, “what greater thing in all this world can there be than to become the father of a precious child, a son or daughter of our Father in Heaven, for whom we are given the right and responsibilities of mortal stewardship.  How precious thing is a baby.  How wonderful thing is a child.  What a marvelous thing is a family.  Live worthy of becoming a father of whom your wife and children will be proud.” Strive to become that person, so your wife can tell your children “follow your dad’s example.”

Take your Priesthood responsibilities and duties seriously in your families.  As in the Proclamation, “Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other. “Children are an heritage of the Lord.” (Psalms 127:3) Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God, and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they may live. “  It is such an amazing sight for me when I see a father bring his family together for scripture study and family prayer.  Building a family on a foundation of the gospel will enable them to withstand the buffetings of Satan.

The Proclamation states, “Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.  By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families.”  I want my husband to be motivated to provide for our family spiritually as well as temporally.  The roles of men and women in our society has been distorted and I want my husband to understand Heavenly Father’s plan for men and women and the roles we play in that plan.  Always maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.

In conclusion, I want to let you all know that no girl is going to be looking for someone who has all of these qualities perfected, but as you strive to develop these characteristics, you will be better prepared for marriage.  As part of God’s plan of happiness, we are here on earth to learn, to grow, and to marry in the temple so we can build eternal family units.

President Ezra Taft Benson said, “Give me a young man who has kept himself morally clean and has faithfully attended his church meetings.  Give me a young man who has magnified his priesthood and earned his Duty to God Award… Give me a young man who is a seminary graduate and has a burning testimony of the Book of Mormon.  Give me such a man and I will give you a young man who can perform miracles for the Lord in the mission field and throughout his life.”  I know that you all can become the person Heavenly Father wants you to be.  You Can Do IT!  And for you young men, Heavenly Father is preparing a righteous young woman to be your eternal companion.  Live worthy of such a woman. 

Monday, March 23, 2009

Don't Worry....

Holy Cow!!!  Don't worry, the Gomer Family has not fallen off of planet earth! :)  I can't believe it's been almost 4 months since the last post.  It's understandable though, my mom has been super busy with all the craziness in our lives.  Sooo.... Since pictures are worth a thousand words (or so they say) I will give you an opportunity to see what our family has been up to.  Enjoy!!

December 2008

Some of the Great-Grandkids at Grandma 
Great's Funeral

The Girls- Cheri, Kayla, Kelsey, and Kensie


Our Christmas Card Picture
(Taken in a cemetery in Utah)

In our Christmas Jammies

February 2009

The Cousins

JA Dance 2009
Reed, Kelsey, Grady, Anna, Kayla, Gino, Katelynn, and Ian

March 2009

Kelsey & Kayla at Huntington Beach

The 3 Time State Champion High School Soccer Team at Huntington Beach

Medieval Times


COMING SOON !!!!!! (Hopefully).........

-Pinewood Derby
-David Archuleta Concert


Sunday, November 30, 2008

I Am Thankful For...

Mom and Dad,

I know I don't tell you nearly enough, but I want to let you know that I am so grateful for everything you do for me.

I'm Thankful For You...

-Going to hundreds of soccer games, even if it was pouring snow and 20 degrees outside.

-Giving me memories that I will remember forever.

-Teaching me the importance of family.

-Always sticking by me through thick and thin.

-Teaching me about the gospel and that I am a child of God.

-"Staying" up for us on the weekends to make sure that we get home safely. (I know you still love me even if you are "just resting your eyes" when I find you on the couch) 

-Working so hard to give us everything  we could ever want and more.

-Staying up until 3 o'clock in the morning just to listen to me blabber on about my date and how cute I think the boy was.

-Sacrificing everything you have, to make me the person that I am and the person that I hope to become.

I know that I could go on and on.  This list is just going to get longer as I get older and realize the small things you have done for me.  I am so blessed to have you both in my life and you mean so much to me.  I love you!


Saturday, November 29, 2008

She's Playin...


Kensie made her middle school basketball team.  They are having a great season and she is having tons of fun.
Kensie is running back to defense. (Man that Ref looks familiar)

Kensie waiting for the ball (She is #2)

Lined up for free throws 

State Final Soccer Game- "Reed Cements Dynasty"

We have been wrapped up in the happenings of the end of the soccer season events so I am so sorry it has taken me forever to update.  

I am so proud to let you all know that Kayla and Kelsey's team won the Nevada 4A State Soccer game.  The girls played against Douglas and they won 3 to 1.  Kayla scored the third goal off of a breakaway.  The wind was blowing really hard and it started pouring rain in the last few minutes of the game.  The girls worked hard and left everything they had out on the field.  The day was full of mixed emotions.  We were ecstatic that they won, but we were sad at the same time because that game would be the last game that Kayla and Kelsey would play together in high school.

 This is the third year in a row that Reed Girls Soccer has won the championship.  No team has ever had a 3-peat in all of 4A  high school girls soccer history.  Kayla has had  an impact in all three championships and Kelsey in two of the three.  

This season was very successful for both of our girls.  Kelsey ended her junior season with 7 goals and 13 assists and she was also awarded All-League First Team.  Kayla ended her senior season with 25 goals and 7 assists and she was awarded All-League Offensive Player of the Year and All-League First Team.  Kayla also broke the all time school record with 42 career goals.  

Saturday, November 8, 2008

State Semi Final Soccer Game

Last Saturday was the state quarterfinal game in soccer.  It was about 45 degrees and pouring rain and huge winds.  It was horrible.  Our team played an amazing game against Carson. Carson has the all time leading scorer that we had to try to shut down and we did!!!  With less than 2 minutes left in the game before overtime, Kayla got an amazing breakaway and scored the only goal of the game. The state semi final soccer game was on Thursday and Kayla was able to score the only goal of the game at the start of the second half.  This has been another great year of soccer for Kayla and Kelsey.

Kayla and Kelsey's Friends cheering the team on.

Kayla trying to head a ball in on a corner kick. (She's in the white)

Kelsey running past a defender 

Kayla and Kelsey 

Today is the State Championship game and we are all so excited.  The girls team has won state the past 2 years and are trying for a third. It's a beautiful sunny day with a high of 60, it will be great.  Hopefully they will do well.  Kayla and Kelsey both have had a great time playing together and it's a bittersweet day since it's Kayla's last high school game.

Wish us well......


I only got pictures of Ryan this year for Halloween.  He was a Vampire!!!